Chances are…probably not. But a lot of people do. According to the Guinness Book of World Records, it’s the most spoken fictional language by number of speakers. It has its own institute , and one of its characters was used in the original Wikipedia logo. And alas, most people are unaware.

Most people aren’t concerned with what moves us, bothers us, attracts us or inspires us. Most people don’t have an iPhone, a car or speak English. Most people don’t do things like we do. But, some people do. Some people believe precisely what we believe. Some people care about…

…create a common existence. They create a more certain future, reducing the chaos of an individually interpretive society. But, they come with a price…a common existence, and perhaps one we might not choose if it were up to us. Boundaries then, for the most part, aren’t for us. They’re for the others, the collective us. We give up freedom of choice for the benefit of making others comfortable.

The freedom to act how we choose, through the filters and lenses we use to see the world, is a selfish act. Offering up some of this freedom to others is selfless, a gift, and the price of being individual, of being both human and humane. The generosity of restriction might be the highest form of care. Choose both freedoms and boundaries wisely.

Habits are involuntary acts done primarily to serve ourselves for immediate gratification. It’s all the things we do without thought, both good and bad, which make us feel good, safe and secure. And, we would miss them if they were gone. It’s why breaking them is so hard to do.

Habits also create an image, how we’re seen by the outside world. Our cleanliness, sloppiness, reading and eating habits, all define who we are to the people around us. They make up our posture, approach and attitude towards things. So, they count.

Habits aren’t work. Work is what we do…

Michael Chaffin

Hospitality leader, teacher and coach. My specific areas of expertise are innkeeping, culture development and leadership. More at

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